Mom Of Two Trans Kids Responds To Our Recent Podcast About Trans Issues

Did you hear our latest podcast from this week?  If you missed it, check it out right here.

Listen to “Ep. 24: No, We Won’t Use Your Made-Up Gender Pronouns” on Spreaker.

We got a message from a mom who heard our discussion and wanted to weigh in. Her experience is heartbreaking, and she has allowed us to share it in the hope that it can help prevent another family from going through something similar.

I can’t stress this enough. Watch what your kids are doing on line. Know who they’re talking to. Make no assumptions about who you THINK they are. And keep talking and talking and talking.

She writes:

Dear Mock and Daisy,

I just finished listening to today’s “Mock and Daisy’s Common Sense Cast: Ep. 24: No, We Won’t Use Your Made-Up Gender Pronouns” and I want to address the point you made about IamWatson needing someone to affirm her and tell her she fine as she was. You said “she needed a parent, an authority figure, somebody older, somebody to tell her you are ok just as you are and we’re going to work through this”.

And, for many this is true. Certainly for IamWatson it is true. But, as often happens parents are being blamed too much for encouraging or affirming this. I am a Christian and can tell you that this is a growing issue in the Evangelical Church. And, the Church is not supporting us in our struggle. 

As the parent of not one, but two adult children who think they are transgender, I want to share my story. My children came to believe this separately and in different ways and nothing I said or did made a difference. I apologize for the length, but I believe this is important. Other loving parents are living with the same guilt, shame and loss that I am because this isn’t just destroying individuals but entire families, as well. 

When my son and daughter were in their teens we bought each a laptop for school. Our son quickly got into gaming and began spending a lot of time online, building friendships over gaming. This seemed safe enough and he had always been trustworthy. Looking back we shouldn’t have allowed the computer in his room. Over three years one friend led him to one site, which led to a new one, until finally he had a little group of “friends”. One friend was significantly older and transgender and over time we believe this person groomed our son. We didn’t even know this was happening as he was acting like his normal self, until one day at 20, he announced he was transgender. We tried to discuss it and understand why he would think this. He is very bright and we discussed the science and how you can’t change. We affirmed that God created him with a purpose and that he was fine the way he was. We prayed with and for him. By 21 he was gone. We wouldn’t allow him to dress like a woman or start transitioning under our roof. We wouldn’t refer to him as her, etc. He moved to Portland to live with the person who groomed him. He hasn’t spoken to me in six years. He has rewritten his childhood to include things like trying on his little sister’s clothes, etc. Things that never happened and never could happen, but that fit his new victim identity. 

Meanwhile, his sister had started college. She had a challenging adolescence, including being sexually assaulted by a boy at school. She was coping well, but was on an anti-depressant. She didn’t believe in the transgender thing and couldn’t understand how her brother could. Fast forward two and a half years. She decided to stop taking her meds and didn’t care what we said. We encouraged her to go to counseling. She was at a Christian college so we assumed the counselors would be Christian. WRONG! Within months she had decided I was evil and had abused her all her life, all her friends were actually enemies, and that she was transgender (although she didn’t reveal that yet). She moved out of the apartment she shared with her best friend (now enemy) and in with other likeminded people. She also stopped speaking to me. Her father tried to get her to see an actual psychologist/psychiatrist to be re-evaluated. One grandparent had Schizophrenia and these incidents could be the beginning warning signs. Nope. She kept seeing this counselor and then found a transgender supportive counselor. Fast forward to today, three years later, and she has had surgery to remove her breasts. We thought that wouldn’t happen for a while because of the expense, however, now most insurances cover a lot of it, and there are funds and organizations that will pay the difference! So, not only do they push this along faster than ever, but they don’t even have to save up for the surgery anymore. Did you know the process used to take a minimum of seven years and you needed three separate therapists to recommend you for transitioning? She too has now rewritten her childhood, but in her retelling I am a monster. We were speaking off and on, but somewhere along the way she swallowed the leftist kool-aid and when I disagreed with her and refused to use her pronoun of choice, she cut me off permanently. I have been asked why I didn’t just call her what she wanted and keep the peace. And, in fact, I tried for a few months, but it was never enough. According to her I needed to stop referring to her as a girl when looking at childhood photos, change my beliefs about God, and what God says about men, women and sexual behavior. I love my children, I weep over my children, but I will never choose them over God. 

So, our family has been destroyed by the transgender movement. They are anti-family, anti-God and will steamroll anyone in their way. My advice is to pray over your children constantly, monitor their computer use, and never allow privacy with their computer (phones, too), and if your child needs counseling while away at college, work hard to verify the person is Christian. Warn your college age children that those counseling centers on campus are often staffed by non-believers. And, please pray for the parents you know with transgender children. Our grief and loss is comparable to a death, except it is continuous. We can’t rest in the knowledge that they are in a better place or out of pain. Please don’t blame us. Many of us have done the best we could and still couldn’t stop it. 

Thanks for listening. I hope this gives you another perspective; one that isn’t heard very often. 

Sincerely,

Kathi Kreider 

I hope so much that Kathi’s family is one day reunited, but our culture is so sick right now, and so determined to shatter traditional families in favor of “progressive” ideas.