Noise Complaint + Cake = An Ending I DEFINITELY Wasn’t Expecting

I ran across this and I figured I’d share it with all of you. It gave me the warm and fuzzies.

Our world is so disjointed lately. We’re all so disconnected from each other. Do people even know their neighbors anymore?

This story involves loud parties, cake, and neighbors… and it really doesn’t go the way I thought.

I wanted the best way to tell my neighbor that he tried it with his late night party. So I wrote him a letter and baked him a cake. pic.twitter.com/SxPKAzOHp0

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 15, 2018

Girl, I get it.

I’ve had loud neighbors before. I lived in a major college town for 6 years. Then in an apartment for another 2. Things get LOUD… and sometimes you have to get creative.

Sure, I’ve knocked on some neighbors doors… but I’ve literally had neighbors who were SO loud, they couldn’t even hear me knocking!

The update is, thankfully, there is no update. I knocked on his door but he didn’t answer so I had to leave it in a bag on his door. When I left out, it wasn’t on his door anymore. So I’m taking that to mean he got and read it.

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018

Folks are calling what I did extra. It was extra AF. Throwing a house party at 3am is extra AF, too.

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018

“Why didn’t you just go over there?” I live alone. I didn’t know who/what I could’ve met going by myself. And it was 3AM!!! I’m not getting dressed to leave my apartment at 3am because niggas wanna be inconsiderate. Plus, I couldn’t find my bra. It was 3am. 🤷🏽‍♀️

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018

TOTALLY RELATABLE.

“Why didn’t you call 911?” I ONLY call police for emergencies. They are killing us every other day and getting away with it. Had anything resulted in an unfortunate outcome, not only would my safety be at risk, I’d feel horrible. I don’t call the police on us if I can help it.

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018

Ok… I couuuuld have lived without this. But I get SOME of the sentiment. No one WANTS to escalate a situation if it’s not necessary.

Ultimately, as a single woman, I gotta be mindful of how I navigate tense situations. I have to live here, too. I knew I needed to say something. I was looking for a way that didn’t make it confrontational. Plus I really love to bake! 🤣

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018

TRUE.

No one wants to be a tire-slashing target of the neighborhood.

I know folks are saying they wouldn’t eat the cake but I hope he takes into consideration that I put my real name on the letter, wouldn’t incriminate myself and just wouldn’t be that mean! LOL!

So I hope he eats the cake but more than that, I hope he doesn’t do that shit again!!

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018

I would TOTALLY eat the cake.

But then… there was an update!

AND HIS MUSIC TONIGHT IS THE LOWEST IT HAS EVER BEEN! #PrayerAndPoundCakeWork

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 16, 2018

HALLELOOOO!

UPDATE: I JUST MET MY NEIGHBOR TOMMY!!!! He’s so freaking cool! He apologized for the noise, promised to invite me to the next party and most importantly…HE SAID MY POUND CAKE WAS AMAZING!!!! pic.twitter.com/NcU8t0ZfqT

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018

My neighbor is a music video producer. EVERYTHING makes sense now. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018

And then…

While talking to Tommy, I learned that he’s new to the area as well *and* this is his first Christmas without his daughter, who passed away earlier this year in a car accident.

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018

Wow.

Yall know how rough grieving was for me in the months following Mama’s death. I can only imagine what it would have felt like for someone to confront me with anger when I’m trying my best to get through my first holiday season.

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018

It was a sweet and gentle reminder that we never know what folks are going through and it is always best to lead with kindness. When we can extend grace, we really should.

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 18, 2018

What an IMPORTANT reminder around this time of year, and ALWAYS.

We never know what someone is going through. We never know who needs a friend, a smile, or a helping hand. Behind what you think may be rudeness may be a lot of pain.

You never know.

So I’m shooting my shot&asking someone to take a chance on a holiday movie about a Southern girl w/a baking blog moving to NYC to become a writer&she moves next door to a loud, cute music video director! @ava @LenaWaithe @IssaRae @hallmarkchannel @OWNTV @willpowerpacker @netflix

— Candice Marie Benbow (@CandiceBenbow) December 22, 2018

HAHA!

I would TOTALLY watch it, Candice!