This Is Hurting The #MeToo Movement. This Right Here.

Condoleeza Rice recently gave some insight into the #MeToo movement and issued a very practical warning.

“Let’s not turn women into snowflakes.”

Exactly. That’s my fear. We cannot become ridiculously hypersensitive. If a man compliments you and it was unwanted, that is not sexual assault. Suggesting otherwise actually serves as a slap in the face to women who truly experienced sexual assault.

Wanna know what else is a slap in the face to women who have REALLY been sexually assaulted? Stories like this.

According to that sourcelink, a 23-year-old New York photographer is accusing comedian Aziz Ansari of sexual misconduct. But once you read the details of her story, you’ll quickly realize why it’s so problematic.

Keep in mind, she spoke about her experience on the condition of anonymity.

She said she met Ansari at an Emmys after-party last year. She approached him. She made the first move.

“I stood up, and I’m like tipsy at this point and feeling really confident. I’m in a gown, and I walked up to Aziz and said, ‘What’d you just shoot with?'” she said.

They exchanged numbers and eventually went on a date.

On Monday, September 25, she said she went to Ansari’s swanky TriBeCa apartment, where they drank white wine and talked.

‘I didn’t get to choose and I prefer red, but it was white wine,’ she recalled.

Ansari then walked her a few blocks away to Grand Banks, an oyster bar on a historic wooden schooner on the Hudson River, she told the publication. She claims the dinner proceeded and Ansari seemed in a rush to get her elsewhere.

‘When the waiter came over he quickly asked for the check and he said like, ‘Let’s get off this boat’,’ before her wine glass was even empty, she said. ‘Like, he got the check and then it was bada-boom, bada-bing, we’re out of there.’

They went back to his apartment, and he offered to get a condom. She refused. She wasn’t interested in sex. But THEN, she allowed him to perform sexual acts of an oral nature on HER, and she willingly reciprocated.

The woman claims he stuck his fingers down her throat and allegedly kept moving her hand towards his penis.

‘He probably moved my hand to his d**k five to seven times,” she said. “He kept doing it after I moved it away.

‘It was 30 minutes of me getting up and moving and him following and sticking his fingers down my throat again. It was really repetitive. It felt like a f***ing game.’

She said she couldn’t say whether Ansari was just clueless or actively ignoring her signals.

‘I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn’t interested. I don’t think that was noticed at all, or if it was, it was ignored,’ she said.

She alleges that Ansari repeatedly asked her ‘Where do you want me to f**k you?’

When the woman stood up to leave, Ansari insisted on calling a car for her, she claims. He allegedly instructed her to use the name ‘Essence’ with the driver.

‘I cried the whole ride home. At that point I felt violated. That last hour was so out of my hand,’ she said

If she didn’t want to engage in sexual acts, she should’ve SAID SO OUT LOUD and NOT PERFORMED ONE ON HIM. She allowed him to perform acts on her, and she reciprocated. What kind of signal did she think that sent? OF COURSE he misread her cues. I fail to see how she can cry victim here.

The next day, before the woman could figure out what to say to Ansari about the date, he allegedly sent her a text message.

‘It was fun meeting you last night,’ the message read.

The woman responded: ‘Last night might’ve been fun for you, but it wasn’t for me. You ignored clear non-verbal clues; you kept going with advances.

‘I want to make sure you’re aware so maybe the next girl doesn’t have to cry on the ride home.’

“Clear non-verbal clues”? I’m sorry to be blunt, but you allowed him to go down on you and reciprocated. WHAT IN THE WORLD. You don’t get to have it both ways!

Ansari allegedly replied: ‘I’m so sad to hear this. Clearly, I misread things in the moment and I’m truly sorry.’

He apologized, and she STILL felt the need to come out and make her #MeToo story public.

No. Just no. You don’t get to do all of that and THEN say that there were MISREAD CUES.

Like I said. Stories like these are ruining the movement. It’s a disgrace to women who were actually abused.

h/t Daily Mail

Update:

. @azizansari responds to allegations of sexual misconduct. pic.twitter.com/nt0BzXCcmG

— Yashar Ali 🐘 (@yashar) January 15, 2018