Online Trolls Attack Mother Of Stillborn Triplets Trying To Reach Out To Other Parents Of Stillborn Babies

I have no idea what possesses people to say awful things to other people – especially those going through something as tough as losing a child (or, indeed, multiple children).

According to this, a Georgia woman named Amanda Morrison recently found out she was pregnant with triplets. This was a huge deal because she had wanted children for fourteen years, but had a hard time getting pregnant. After doing fertility treatments, she was delighted to find out that she was pregnant with triplets!

But that’s when the heartbreak came. At fifteen weeks, her doctor told her that her cervix wasn’t functional and she was going to lose the babies –

‘I started frantically researching, doing more research than you would do to cram for an exam, to see if there is anything that might help.
‘I cried, I begged, I pleaded for someone to help me. I remember screaming out at the hospital that this wasn’t real. I just felt numb.

After her babies were delivered, she was allowed to spend some time with them, treating them like other newborn babies, even though they were already gone. She took pictures of herself with them and later posted them online as a way to help herself through the grieving process, and also to reach out to other parents who’ve had stillborn children –

‘Seeing my angel babies were the same emotions that any mother would feel. I was in love like no one could explain but another mother.
‘I counted their fingers, I counted their toes, I memorised them instantly. I kissed them and held them and had to let them go.
‘I get to see them only in those photographs and at the same time it is painful because no other photos will ever be taken.

Here’s one of the pictures of Amanda with her babies –

But because people on the internet can be absolute scum, they started calling her terrible things –

A heartbroken mother of three stillborn triplets has lashed out at online trolls who have targeted her for posting pictures of her unborn children.
Amanda […] has been called a ‘baby killer’ and a ‘psychopath’ for trying to reach out to other parents who have lost a child.
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Despite being stunned at some of the online vitriol she has received, she claims she is determined to help raise awareness of how to help parents of ‘angels’.
She said: ‘I can say that through all the negative comments, I have realised how quiet society wants us to be about child loss.
‘People need to realize that it’s okay to mention our children’s names. While it hurts, the fact they are remembered makes us proud.
‘They need to know that we don’t want you to walk on egg shells around us, but we need them to understand if for instance we just stop in the middle of the store sometimes if we see children’s items.

‘People forget there are mums like us that would give up everything just to have a moment with our children, even if it were a situation most other parents would find annoying, like cleaning up mess.
‘I actually opened a group on Facebook for parents of angels, and the connection is that no matter when or how we have lost our children, we feel the same.’

Look, maybe posting pictures of your stillborn babies on Facebook isn’t necessarily the way you would grieve, but it clearly helps Amanda. There is already so much terrible crap in the world that I see no reason to pile on someone like her and make things worse (what good would it do, anyway?)

My heart goes out to her with her desire to be a mother. And I commend her for her strength and courage. The article also mentions that she wants to try further fertility treatments, so she clearly hasn’t given up on her dream yet.

You go, Amanda. You go.