O.M.G.
Thanks to our galpal at NEW, I read this article this morning and promptly felt a desire to punch the nearest self-proclaimed feminist in the face.
According to the sourcelink, “men who open doors for women are guilty of ‘benevolent sexism’ according to a new study by feminist psychologists.” And not only that – if men help women carry shopping bags or help them choose a computer or offer to drive long distances? THEY ARE TOTAL SEXISTS.
“Researchers” – and I use that term loosely and with total contempt – from the Society for the Psychology of Women did the study in the US and in Germany. They asked volunteers to keep track of incidents of sexist and non-sexist behaviors they saw/experienced, from a provided list of examples. One example was calling women “chicks” which they noted was a “blatant act of sexism.”
Hear that, Daisy? We are so totally sexist.
But other examples were termed “benevolent sexism” and included “romantic statements from men about how they cannot live without a woman or how much they ‘cherish’ women.” Because you know – women HATE to hear that stuff from men (snort).
Here’s what the “researchers” wrote: “Women endorse sexist beliefs, at least in part, because they do not attend to subtle, aggregate forms of sexism in their personal lives. Many men not only lack attention to such incidents but also are less likely to perceive sexist incidents as being discriminatory and potentially harmful for women.”
Yes. Because I don’t know about you all, but it is VERY HARMFUL TO ME when my husband insists on driving during long road trips. I am TOTALLY PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGED when he tells me he can’t live without me. And I feel deeply discriminated against when he has the AUDACITY to fix the brakes on my car.
Thank goodness for this groundbreaking study, else I would have had no idea what a sexist jerk my husband is, what with all of his compliments and helpfulness and whatnot.
I think it’s time to revisit this video: