Sally Kohn Is Hoping Her Daughter Turns Out Gay.

I am not a fan of Sally Kohn.  You may find that to be glaringly evident if you re-read this post I wrote to rebut her stupid rebuttal to the GOP rebuttal to the 2014 SOTU address. (I know that sentence hurt to read, but I promise it really does make sense.)

Anyway, you probably know already that Sally Kohn is a lesbian.  She's in a committed relationship with another lesbian, and they have a daughter, age 6.  And according to this, Sally is really really hoping her daughter is every bit as gay as she is.

She writes,

I’m gay. And I want my kid to be gay, too.

And further, she writes,

…while gay-positive culture has flourished since, our aspirations haven’t kept pace. It’s more widely acceptable to be gay in America today, but that’s not the same as being desirable. In my house, though, it is.

Sally pre-emptively responds to the inevitable criticism; specifically, that if her daughter is gay, she'll face hardships she might not otherwise encounter as a straight person. But, Sally insists, she wants her child to be herself.  Just as it would be harder to choose being an artist as a profession versus being a dentist, Sally says, that shouldn't be a barrier, and she'll "encourage her all the way."

But Sally DOESN'T want her child to be herself.  If she did, the title of her column would have been, "I'm gay.  And I want my kid to be herself, whatever sexuality that happens to be."  But that wasn't the column title.  The column title was, very specifically, "I'm gay.  And I want my daughter to be gay, too."

And Sally PROVES that she doesn't want her child to be herself in her column. She writes,

 We’ve bought every picture book featuring gay families, even the not-very-good ones, and we have most of the nontraditional-gender-role books as well — about the princess who likes to fight dragons and the boy who likes to wear dresses.

When my daughter plays house with her stuffed koala bears as the mom and dad, we gently remind her that they could be a dad and dad.

It's not enough, apparently, that Sally and her partner are providing an example of lesbian life EVERY SINGLE DAY to their daughter.  They're correcting the way their daughter plays freaking house.  While she doesn't say so in her column, I suspect there are exactly NO books in their household which feature traditional families.  She writes,

Time will tell, but so far, it doesn’t look like my 6-year-old daughter is gay. In fact, she’s boy crazy. It seems early to me, but I’m trying to be supportive. Recently, she had a crush on an older boy on her school bus. She was acting as any precocious, socially awkward child would, which is to say not very subtle. I confided in a friend who has an older daughter. “She wants to give this kid a card and presents,” I e-mailed. “The other kid is so embarrassed. It’s painful to watch. What do I do?”

My friend wrote back with a slew of helpful advice, ending with a punch to my gut: “Bet it wouldn’t bother you so much if her crush was on a girl.”

She was right. I’m a slightly overbearing pro-gay gay mom. But I’m going to support my daughter, whatever choices she makes.

But she clearly isn't supportive of her daughter's choices ALREADY. You know why? Because Sally Kohn defines herself by her lesbianism. It's the center of her existence. And she wants the same to be true for her innocent daughter, who has her first boy crush.

I genuinely hope that Sally Kohn's daughter becomes exactly who she's destined to be – straight or gay – it doesn't really matter.

It's unfortunate that it matters so much to Sally Kohn, isn't it?