Weddings are a veritable etiquette minefield. Especially the super-fancy ones. One wrong move and you could have Bridezilla on your tail. And she does not forgive easily (doesn’t matter if Bridezilla was the sweetest, kindest, most considerate person before she started planning The Best Day Of Her Life – if you do something to screw it up, you are pretty much hosed).
(Let me just take this moment to say – if I ever become That Bride that freaks out one everybody when something goes wrong, please slap me.)
Jessica Baker was all set to attend her friend’s wedding when her mother called and said something came up and she couldn’t watch Baker’s kids anymore. And the wedding that Baker was attending had a strict “No Children” rule (and I’m sure we could get into the psychology of a couple who says kids can’t attend their wedding, but that’s another topic entirely). So, Jessica stayed home and ended up missing her friend’s wedding. Because life happens and things come up. Even if you meticulously plan and find that All-Powerful, All-Magical Day That Works For Everybody (complete with a unicorn that poops ice cream) – something is going to happen to prevent someone from attending.
Fast forward to a few weeks later and Jessica gets a BILL in the mail. From her friend whose wedding she missed. For $75 to cover the cost of the dinner Jessica and her husband would have eaten had they been able to go to the wedding –
GOOD GRIEF. What, was that crusted walleye garnished with gold dust or something?
From the article –
‘It listed, we would have had two herb crusted walleye and there was also a service and tax charge.’
It also came with a note for Baker and her husband that read; ‘This cost reflects the amount paid by the bride and groom for meals that were RSVP’d for, reimbursement and explanation for no show, card, call or text would be appreciated.’
Said Baker; ‘I guess I don’t know what the right answer would have been. What the right thing to do would have been.’
Baker does know however that she is not paying the bill – and also has yet to send the couple a gift or card.
Can’t say that I blame her. Sure, Jessica didn’t send a text or call her friend last minute to say she wasn’t coming – but it was her friend’s FREAKING WEDDING DAY! Bridezilla was probably running around like a chicken with her head cut off. Sometimes, it’s better (and more sensible) to let things be and then offer an explanation AFTER the dust has settled and the honeymoon’s over.
At least, that’s what normal and sane people would do. Then again, normal and sane people don’t send their friends a bill for missing a glorified party.
Things like this make eloping to Vegas look immensely appealing.