Just Stop with the Weak Condolences

A small rabbit once said, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”

Well, a lot of people appear to have forgotten Thumper’s Law, because I’ve noticed some very lame condolences floating around in the wake of Charlie Kirk’s murder.

Hint: If you have to say, “Man, I hated that guy, but he shouldn’t have been murdered,” just stop typing and shut up. Your sympathy sounds disingenuous. We don’t need to know you didn’t agree with everything he said, because—news flash—no person agrees with another person 100% of the time.

DellaDream on TikTok summed up this sentiment perfectly. Warning: if you have little ears around, there is a bit of language at the end of the video. 

Watch:

Yup. It’s weak.

Commenter LilDisco also noted these condolences feel “… so performative” which is also dead on.

If your friend lost a spouse you disliked, you’d never go up to them at the funeral and say, “He sure sucked. But hey, sorry he’s dead!” Or you shouldn’t, anyway. Why? Because it’s a gross thing to do. The Charlie Kirk situation is no different, whether you knew him or not.