Nonbinary Person Laments How Hard It Is To Get A Haircut

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The Blaze is reporting on a video that is making the rounds on social media.

It is of a person (I *think* a biological woman) who laments how difficult it is to get a simple haircut.

The ensuing social media backlash has led BBC The Social to warn against bullying and threats.

Sometimes I need a haircut.  It’s really that simple.  But simplicity seems to jump out the window when I head out the door into our society which has a limited capacity for people who don’t fit the norm.  And we’re normally offered female or male. Mark the box with a tick.  Please make yourself fit. But I’m more that ‘other’, if that’s even an option.  Like I’m some thing on the outside existing beside the world as it rolls by all pink and blue.  In this society, entirely divisible by two, into woman & man.  But I relate most to that ampersand.  And I need a haircut.

The person goes on to say the choice for a haircut is either a salon or a barber.

The salon does not work because it is a “womanly world of perfumed femininity with which I feel like I have little affinity”.  The barber doesn’t work either “since this voice and these swells in my chest make me feel like an infiltrator”.

I watch this and feel bad for this person.  I truly, truly do.  The thought of living with this psychological turmoil is awful.

HOWEVER, it really isn’t society being prejudiced that is the problem, as the person making the video believes.  Society does not need to create a third segment of shops to get one’s haircut for a tiny sliver of the population.

Certainly, if there is an actual market for that, someone will create it.  But, there is nothing wrong with feminine salons or masculine barber shops.

What really needs to happen is for this person to get psychological help.  He or she needs counseling to come to grips with his/her gender and to become comfortable and confident in his/her own skin.

Also, it just kills me that people who complain about not fitting in, like this individual, then go and do everything they can in their appearance to not fit in and to stick out like a sore thumb.  This person has huge gauges in his/her ears, face piercings, and generally stands out.

The ultimate complaint of this individual is that they have to state their sex to get a haircut.

“Are you a boy or a girl?  Am I trans, am I gay, and I don’t know what to say. Sometimes I pick my labels to make other people feel OK, but it’s never enough to say where I’d like to be trimmed or shaved … they need to know my sex.”

The video ends with the person saying, “We’re queer and we’re here”, and  “So, do you have to make a fuss, or could you just cut our f*cking hair?”

The Blaze outlined the harsh response from Twitter users.

A number of Twitter users didn’t hold back their contempt for the nonbinary person’s complaints:

• “This really is the new Greatest Generation. My heart goes out to each and everyone of them. Haircuts are the new Normandy beaches.”

• “Wtf is wrong with snowflakes? Just go to a unisex hair salon. It’s not hard is it.”

• “Have we failed entirely as a society? Do we really now pay attention to people that feel unsafe & ‘unwelcome’ getting their hair cut? Does EVERYTHING have to be unisex to accommodate a tiny minority that keeps inventing problems on a daily basis? How about some gratefulness?”

• “When life is too easy so you need to fabricate some form of struggle.”

• “Please send this person to Venezuela for a month. People seem to have entirely forgotten what real problems look like.”

• “I’m a women. About 4 years ago I had a mohawk with shaved sides, done by a hairdresser and maintained for a short while by a local barber. No one cared that I was a women, no one. I mean, absolutely no one objected to me having short hair in either the hairdressers or barbers.”